THE GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER PODCAST
Getting to know our new babies and our new selves
February 7, 2023
MATRESCENCE, CONGRUENT PARENTING, SOMATIC TOOLS, PARENTING PODCAST
with Consultant Perinatal Psychologist Julianne Boutaleb
This episode takes sections from podcast episode 32 with Julianne Boutaleb – a consultant perinatal psychologist and Director of Parenthood in Mind. Julianne speaks about the processes of attachment between a mother and her baby, the early attachment needs of a baby, self-regulation and co-regulation between carers and babies, and changes that happen in a woman’s brain when she becomes a mother. Julianne offers advice about how we can move through these experiences with a sense of forgiveness, compassion, and gentleness, in order to use this time as an opportunity to settle into a new ‘maternal rhythm’.
Using our voices.
— Julianne Boutaleb in conversation with Sophie Brock, Ep #90 The Good Enough Mother
“The other thing that I do a lot of as well as I add, like a vocalisation, which just sounds like a zoo sound when I do the outbreath. And often he comes in and puts his head on my chest, because he really likes the sound of the vibration. And sometimes that's enough to calm us down together as well. It's a beautiful co-regulation thing there as well”.
meet
Julianne
Boutaleb
Julianne is the Clinical Director and Founder of the Parenthood In Mind practice. She is a passionate and highly experienced perinatal psychologist who has worked for over 20 years in the NHS and private practice with parents and parents-to-be and their babies (and bumps) who have needed support with a wide variety of issues including anxiety and depression during and after pregnancy, miscarriage and reproductive loss, attachment issues, re-emergence of childhood issues and couples issues. Julianne is a member of the Birth Trauma Association and specialises in working therapeutically with birth trauma, PTSD and tokophobia (fear of giving birth) as they impact the mother, couple relationship and parent-infant attachment. In addition, she is also affiliated with BICA (British Infertility Counselling Association) and offers tailored psychological interventions for individuals and couples (including same sex couples) who are pregnant or are parenting following ART (IVF, ICSI, donor conception, surrogacy) or adoption. She also specialises in offering psychological support to parents (either individually or together) who are co-parenting in the midst of separation and divorce. She has over 15 years’ experience teaching and training psychologists and health professionals on issues of parental mental health, attachment, early years and positive mental health for babies and young children.
Julianne works from a variety of perspectives including psychodynamic and attachment models, CBT, integrative, ACT and compassion-focussed work, couples work and can also offer parent-infant sessions using the Watch, Wait & Wonder model which focusses on how you can improve your attachment relationship with your baby.
Julianne can offer sessions in either Central London or South Woodford –individual, couples and parent-infant work. In addition to face-to-face sessions, sessions can be offered over the phone or on Skype. Finally, Julianne is registered with BPS, HCPC and BPC and is a recognised health care provider with all the main healthcare insurance providers.
“At the core of all of that, the work that I do is on helping mothers gain a sense of or get in touch with their true authentic selves, and to bring that into their mothering so that it starts to inform their behaviours through their value systems.”
— Yara Heary in conversation with Sophie Brock, Ep #85 The Good Enough Mother
