THE GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER PODCAST
Mothering ourselves through shame and perfectionism
November 21, 2022
PARENTING, MOTHERING, SHAME, PERFECTIONISM, PERFECT MOTHER MYTH,
with mother and psychotherapist, Catherine Counihan
This conversation on shame and perfectionism is with mother and psychotherapist, Catherine Counihan. Catherine and Sophie both share their own personal stories of mothering their daughters to look at some lived examples of how the perfect mother myth, shame and perfectionism can play out in the day-to-day of mothering, and model a pathway through which we as mothers can interrogate our guilt, honour our values, release ‘shoulds’, and offer self-compassion. You’ll learn about the connection between perfectionism and shame, and how shame is created through stories of the ‘good girl’ we experience as children. Catherine shares her approach of working with clients to gain an embodied sense of being good enough in their mothering, helping to shift dysfunctional patterns in our families.
THE SECRET TO UNLOCKING THE STRESS CYCLE
BURNOUT
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“How our shame can pressure our children to try and perform – control.”
Meet
Catherine Counihan
Catherine Counihan is an Integrative Psychotherapist working in private practice in London. She is the mother of twin girls and one of her areas of expertise is the intersection between our own trauma and our parenting. Cath specialises in complex trauma, perfectionism, nervous system healing, shifting dysfunctional patterns in our families and reparenting. Her passion is to shift shame and help each client gain an embodied sense of being good enough.
Helping her clients develop an appreciation for the ways they have learned to survive breaks down shame and focusing on post-traumatic growth brings hope. Cath had done a lot of her own personal work and her own trauma therapy prior to having kids and, despite this, was set back to emotional ground zero by motherhood. Cath hosts a weekly podcast 'Grow Yourself Up' focused on how we can learn to tend to ourselves in adulthood when we have not had our needs met as children and the challenges of doing this as we parent. She also writes, has taught at the Bowlby Centre in London and will begin teaching for the International Attachment Network in 2023. She is registered with and accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). She has more than a decade of experience seeing clients and had a previous career in financial services, working in investment banks and as a management consultant.
LISTEN TO GROW YOURSELF UP WITH CATH COUNIHAN
LISTEN TO GROW YOURSELF UP WITH CATH COUNIHAN
We are going to unpack all of this on Grow Yourself Up. This podcast will be a companion as you travel on your own road of healing and recovery.
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“We can't change all of this in one generation. Many of us have had generations before us, with their own patterns of disconnection and dysfunction, and pain and trauma. And so while there is so much power in the idea that we can be a cycle break, and there is there is power. And we have to really balance that with the idea that all of the stuff from previous generations coming crashing down on top of us, is too much for us to change one generation”.
—Catherine Counihan in conversation with Sophie Brock, Ep #84 The Good Enough Mother Podcast
connect with CATH.
Website - psychotherapymum.com
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Podcast - Grow Yourself Up.