Maternal anger is, arguably, an inescapable part of modern motherhood. Yet, talking about maternal anger is still taboo.

This silencing drives isolation and shame, and can actually intensify our anger as mothers.

I believe that if we are silenced, shamed, and shunned for our anger (both by ourselves and others) then we cannot fully know, understand, explore, process, and grow through our anger.

This course is designed to lift the lid on maternal anger. We learn where anger comes from, why it is there, how to respond to anger, ways to channel anger, why we don’t want to ‘get rid’ of our anger, and how maternal anger can be a powerful resource – for ourselves, our children, and our communities.

The Perfect Mother Myth and Anger

The silencing and shame associated with experiencing anger as a mother is linked to the social and cultural formation of the ‘perfect Mother’ image, that we both internalise, and are judged according to.

The image of the ‘perfect Mother’ is the complete opposite to the ‘angry Mother’.

The ‘perfect Mother’ never loses her temper, never yells, never resents her children, never acts selfishly, never snaps, is never irritable and never craves time away from her children. But the ‘perfect Mother’ is an unattainable myth. Even if we could be the ‘perfect Mother’, this would not be what is best for our children – or ourselves.

Anger is a normal human emotion, that is neither ‘good’ or bad’. Yet mothers are expected not to feel this emotion, or are judged (and judge themselves) when they do.

The realities of intensive motherhood in our culture, only intensifies the pressures on mothers that lead to feelings of anger.

But because of our social understandings of the ‘perfect Mum’, mothers’ feelings of anger are often silenced and unspoken.

Feelings of anger provoke guilt, stigma, isolation, shame. It can make you feel like you are not a ‘good enough mother’.


Maternal anger has been repressed, outcast, and silenced.

But maternal anger can be a resource.

Maternal anger can be revealing of information.

Maternal anger can be our feedback.

Maternal anger can prompt accountability.

Maternal anger can be a catalyst.

Maternal anger can lead to productive action.

Maternal anger can be fuelling energy.

Maternal anger can also be dangerous, a threat, provocative, draining, frightening, and damaging.

In this course you will learn about these differences, and find ways to use your anger as a resource for transformation and growth.


What is the Content Outline?

Week 1 – Nov 23

Mothering Mythologies

The perfect mother myth and why anger is so often a justified response

The Operation of Anger

How anger functions physiologically

Week 2 – Nov 30

Anger as Information

The yearning for space and setting of boundaries

Anger and taking Action

Tending to anger in the moment and creating a toolkit to use

Week 3 – Dec 7

Good Enough Mothering

Cultivating self compassion and gaining clarity of values

Passion and Purpose

Anger as a catalyst for personal growth and creativity

What does the course involve?
  • 3 weeks
  • 2x video trainings a week (6 in total)
  • 6 reflection activities/exercises
  • Option to add group Zooms
  • Option to add one to one personalised support
How is the course run?

There are 3 different options for participating in this course, from independent study mode, group study mode, and supported study mode.

Option 1: Independent Study – $160 aud

  • Access to all video trainings and reflection activities, located on a private e-learning website.

Option 2: Group Study – $260 aud

  • Access to all video trainings and reflection activities, located on a private e-learning website.
  • Weekly group Zoom calls (3 in total) to ask questions, discuss course content, connect with other mothers, and share from your reflection activities if you would like to.
  • Zooms are held Saturday evenings 8.30pm AEDT (Sydney time – use this converter to check what time this is in your timezone).

Option 3: Supported Study – $620 aud

  • Access to all video trainings and reflection activities, located on a private e-learning website.
  • Weekly group Zoom calls (3 in total) to ask questions, discuss course content, connect with other mothers, and share from your reflection activities if you would like to.
  • Zooms are held Saturday evenings 8.30pm AEDT (Sydney time – use this converter to check what time this is in your timezone).
  • 30min private phone call/Zoom call with me at the start of the program where I get to know you and the changes you’re hoping to feel.
  • 1:1 voice and text messaging access to me throughout the length of the course, through a free app called Voxer. Ask me any questions you have directly, and receive direct support.
How to join

Option 1: Independent Study

Content only

A$160.00

Option 2: Group Mode

Content plus Zoom calls (limited spaces)

A$260.00

Option 2: Supported Study

Content plus Zoom calls plus individual support (limited spaces)

A$620.00

Payment Plan Options

Option 1: Independent Study

$55/week over 3 weeks


Option 2: Group Mode

$90/week over 3 weeks


Option 3: Supported Study

$210/week over 3 weeks


What This Course Isn’t
  • Anger can be both normal, and a feature of a postnatal mood disorder such as postnatal depression or anxiety, please contact a health professional if you feel overwhelmed by maternal anger or rage.
  • If you are experiencing anger or maternal rage that interferes with your daily life that you feel you cannot control, please make an appointment with your GP, or reach out to me so I can connect you with appropriate support services.
  • Normalising the spectrum of emotions women as mothers feel does not equate with condoning aggression towards or neglect of children.

FAQ

How do I access content?

Close to when the course begins, you will be sent an email asking you to create a private login to the e-learning website New Zenler. When you login you’ll be directed to the home page where the videos and reflection questions will be posted.

How long will I have access to the course?

Until the end of 2020

Do I have to do and/or share the reflection activities?

No. If you are participating in the Group Mode or Supported Study course options, you are welcome to share your reflection activities if you would like, but are not expected to.

What day and time are the Zoom calls and what if I am in Group Mode and miss a call?

Saturday 28th November 8.30pm; Saturday 5th December 8.30pm; Saturday 12th December 8.30pm. All times AEDT (Sydney). See what time this is in your timezone here.

To protect privacy, Zoom calls for this course are Live only and will not be recorded and shared.

If you are part of the Group Mode and you miss a Zoom call, please email me info@drsophiebrock.com with your reflections from that week’s content, with any questions you have, and I will email you back with my response.


“Anger is an assertion of rights and worth. It is communication, equality, and knowledge. It is intimacy, acceptance, fearlessness, embodiment, revolt, and reconciliation. Anger is memory and rage. It is rational thought and irrational pain. Anger is freedom, independence, expansiveness, and entitlement… Anger is instrumental, thoughtful, complicated, and resolved. In anger, whether you like it or not, there is truth.”

Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger

© Copyright, 2020, Sophie Brock.